Hon, I think that you need to rethink your priorities. What you’ve been doing is really, REALLY skanky. You were encouraging her to cheat on her boyfriend. I’m not saying that she’s blameless, but you could’ve been a real man & stepped away & found some other girl who wasn’t taken & started up a relationship. Heck, if all you wanted was sex then you could have easily found a f**k buddy. But you didn’t.

I mean, what are you trying to accomplish? Do you really think you’ll be happy with someone who you know is willing to cheat on their boyfriend? Do you really think you’ll still be interested in her after she’s no longer "forbidden fruit"? I kinda don’t think that you will be & then you’ll be saddled with someone that you really don’t want to be with & are now responsible for.

Do the right thing & just walk away from it all. I don’t think you can really call what you feel for her love, not really. If you were really in love with her then you would be willing to walk away & let her salvage her relationship. Obviously she’d rather be with him, especially since he found out & she was still willing to stay with him after that. If she’d really loved you & wanted to be with you, she’d have left him regardless of whether he was paying her bills or not. It doesn’t matter what he’s like- there is no good reason to cheat on anyone. If you aren’t happy then you should leave.

I think that you need to grow up & start thinking about getting some morals. What you’ve done is incredibly skanky & horrible. You’re pretty much ruining both of your lives right now, not to mention the life of the poor sap who is taking care of her. He’s the only innocent person in this whole mix. It sounds like he should chuck her out onto the street & go about his own life & try to find someone who isn’t going to sleep around on him constantly. On second thought, it sounds like the two of you deserve each other. The misery that you’d both inevitably feel when the "forbidden fruit" feeling wears off would serve the both of you right.

You were well aware of these two things from the start, and now it’s not so fun anymore once things got real by your own doing.

Even if it’s cruel, as far as I’m concerned you both are takers and deserve the situation you’re in.

A relationship that you desire does not come out of this situation, and she is not as confused as she claims to be. People don’t get confused or need time. Really when there are ‘questions’ about who to choose in a relaitonship they already know from the first second.

"I don’t know" means "I don’t want to hurt you with the answer"

She doesn’t want to be with you, she wants to fool around and hang out with you with nothing changing, but she’s not going to leave you for him.